Attitude of Gratitude: Sexual Health Mentors

A brief self-disclosure on a blog that is usually focused on clinical issues. I had a fortunate privilege to share brunch with one of my mentors, Eli Coleman. I take away two thoughts as I reflect on the experience.

First, everything I bring to the conversation is built on the shoulders of others. It is not possible for me to move the conversation on sexual health forward without the mentorship, support and encouragement from others. For those who don't know, Eli Coleman is the Director of the Program in Human Sexuality at the University of Minnesota. He was my adviser for my PHD, and wrote a generous preface to my book. He, along with others, has been part of my journey in this realm since 1993. In the 16 years, I remain inspired and encouraged.

Second, I'm aware of the isolation that occurs in this field. The cultural bias against talking about sexuality is powerful, even for myself. Answering the question "What do you do for a living?" leads to a reaction of hesitancy and anxiety (aka fear) by those asking the question. (I have a new appreciation of the difficult clients experience when I push for disclosure.) The implication of this "new" revelation affirms the need for all of us to talk about sexuality. I affirm my need to reach out and talk with peers for support, encouragement and affirmation.

Weston

Tiger Woods and Sexual Compulsivity

In all of the recent news on Tiger Woods, very little conversation has occurred beyond the titillating sexual behaviors, number of sexual partners, and the eventual impact on his marketing career. I would hope that somewhere in the conversation, the media would start to address questions of sexual compulsivity. Like many of the recent sexual scandals, we focus on the sensationalism without focusing on the emotional toll on those involved and the struggle many individuals have in the area of sexuality. (Just to note, not knowing the details, I will refrain in assessing Tiger Woods the person.)

This story is only one in a series of many stories to come. Who is next is irrelevant; the key for me is to help others get the services they need. Whenever something like this occurs, I hope people can use the story as a way to reach out for support, help and resources. There are many resources available including SASH.NET, and AASECT.ORG. Reach out and find some resources. Help your self, or help others get the help they need.

Living a Life I Love, workbook availability

I'm happy to announce that Living a Life I Love is now available on an expanded distribution network. You can now purchase the book via orders from any bookstore! This is a change that occurred today, but may take a few weeks to percolate through the paper/electronic distribution networks. Stop by your local bookseller today!