Sunday, December 28, 2008

New Years Resolutions

One of the traditions at the start of a new year is the typical "New Years Resolutions." Examples include those such as a "promise" to not do that again, improve your body, exercise more, and/or to improve your health. As you examine your life, I encourage you to identify a specific and measurable commitment you are willing to take in any of the topics within the concept of sexual health (That means you have a range of topics to from which to select). The task you select should be time focused, measurable, and reflective of your goals. I'd encourage you to also think "incremental" versus an all or nothing approach. Some examples that might be helpful.

1) I will spend 1 hour quality time with my partner on a daily basis.

2) I will spend no more than 1 hour per day using the computer for sexual behavior.

3) I will attend 1 meeting per week.

4) I will exercise 20 minutes 3 times per week.

Once you reach this goal on a regular basis, you can change or add an additional goal. So, once you have decreased the amount of time to 1 hour a week, you might change the goal to no more than 30 minutes per day. You might increase your support network by finding another way to get your intimacy needs met in a healthy way.

Share your goal with 2 other people to gain support.