Showing posts with label Living a Life I Love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Living a Life I Love. Show all posts
Saturday, March 17, 2012
Living a Life I Love website up
The website for the 4 workbooks is "up." The vagaries of the internet resulted in the website disappearing for a while. Please feel free to review extended discussions on the content of the workbooks.
Monday, January 9, 2012
Down under presentation
I’m reminded how much desire and positive energy there is to talk about sexuality. While on vacation in Australia, my friends invited me to present a 45 minute workshop on the new workbook. Based on 1 email list, 26 guys showed up for a conversation about sexual health, and Living A life I Love. The short version, I covered the key of choosing what sexual behavior is most important to you in your life, life goals, Cybersex and the sexual health model. (If you want the long version, search out the blog tags Cybersex, Values, Sexual Health Model, and Personal Definition of Sexual Health for more info).
I am amazed that 26 guys would show up that quickly, with no planning. Special thanks to Peter, David and Nick!
I am amazed that 26 guys would show up that quickly, with no planning. Special thanks to Peter, David and Nick!
Sunday, December 18, 2011
Saturday, December 17, 2011
Living a Life I Love, 2nd edition
The 2nd edition of Living a Life I Love is now available!
I've been a bit busy over the past month finishing the editing process for the new edition of Living a Life I Love. The 2nd edition is officially available as of today. Check out the link for more information and to purchase the workbook!
I've been a bit busy over the past month finishing the editing process for the new edition of Living a Life I Love. The 2nd edition is officially available as of today. Check out the link for more information and to purchase the workbook!
Monday, June 27, 2011
Daily Living a Life I Love
--turns out this is my 200th post.
As the saying goes, “Death by a thousand paper cuts.” Life, then, is created by a thousand moments of transformation. Living a life you live is based on a transformation of your daily life.
One of the assignments from the workbook is identifying values or virtues important in your life. These values are selected from moments where you feel inspired, reflecting on why you admire certain people, and a few additional strategies (see the blogs on pivot points, values, creating your future).
The current paradigm I emphasize is based on helping an individual make a choice between acting out or choosing something he/she finds important. Today’s blog is to also emphasize how you can cultivate the virtues on a daily basis outside of the crisis moments. The key in cultivating a life you love is to identify values to shape your behavior at all times. By cultivating these experiences on a daily basis, an individual will be able to move toward the type of life he/she desires.
For example, take the principle/virtue of courage. Courage has many definitions, and the one I like is, “Courage isn’t acting without fear, it is acting in spit of feeling fear.” This definition is helpful in shaping ALL of your behaviors moving forward. Asking yourself, “What is the courageous thing to do in this moment?” can help you overcome the small little fears in daily living. It might be as simple as assertively communicating your requests, saying yes when you mean yes, being honest about how you think/feel, being proactive (vs. passive), and a multitude of other behaviors. Courage may strangely be the opposite, depending on the circumstances. Courage might be simply waiting for the situation to naturally unfold, trusting others in their statements, or giving up control.
The value of expressing courage is to address the infinite times where you might feel the anxiety/fear/hesitation in your DAILY life. It is in the daily moments where we are fully alive. It is also the daily moments that become the building blocks for the times when we experience a major trigger/risk of relapse. The daily practice can help us respond to the larger events is a courageous manner.
As the saying goes, “Death by a thousand paper cuts.” Life, then, is created by a thousand moments of transformation. Living a life you live is based on a transformation of your daily life.
One of the assignments from the workbook is identifying values or virtues important in your life. These values are selected from moments where you feel inspired, reflecting on why you admire certain people, and a few additional strategies (see the blogs on pivot points, values, creating your future).
The current paradigm I emphasize is based on helping an individual make a choice between acting out or choosing something he/she finds important. Today’s blog is to also emphasize how you can cultivate the virtues on a daily basis outside of the crisis moments. The key in cultivating a life you love is to identify values to shape your behavior at all times. By cultivating these experiences on a daily basis, an individual will be able to move toward the type of life he/she desires.
For example, take the principle/virtue of courage. Courage has many definitions, and the one I like is, “Courage isn’t acting without fear, it is acting in spit of feeling fear.” This definition is helpful in shaping ALL of your behaviors moving forward. Asking yourself, “What is the courageous thing to do in this moment?” can help you overcome the small little fears in daily living. It might be as simple as assertively communicating your requests, saying yes when you mean yes, being honest about how you think/feel, being proactive (vs. passive), and a multitude of other behaviors. Courage may strangely be the opposite, depending on the circumstances. Courage might be simply waiting for the situation to naturally unfold, trusting others in their statements, or giving up control.
The value of expressing courage is to address the infinite times where you might feel the anxiety/fear/hesitation in your DAILY life. It is in the daily moments where we are fully alive. It is also the daily moments that become the building blocks for the times when we experience a major trigger/risk of relapse. The daily practice can help us respond to the larger events is a courageous manner.
Sunday, November 14, 2010
Letting go to become...
When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.
Lao Tzu
Building a life you love requires transformation. Often, however, fear, insecurity, and hopelessness leads to paralysis in a person's movement toward sexual health. In the realm of sexuality, there is often external pressure to conform. When you let go of the expectations that you place on yourself, you move toward the possibility of becoming something more. In my opinion, you start living a life you love.
Lao Tzu
Building a life you love requires transformation. Often, however, fear, insecurity, and hopelessness leads to paralysis in a person's movement toward sexual health. In the realm of sexuality, there is often external pressure to conform. When you let go of the expectations that you place on yourself, you move toward the possibility of becoming something more. In my opinion, you start living a life you love.
Monday, November 8, 2010
Gratitude to my clients
I have a remarkable privilege of working in the realm of sexual health. The participants in a 6-week workshop on addressing chemical health recovery and sexual health again reminded me of this privilege. As one person stated, this is the last issue I need to address. I’m continually impressed with the client’s commitment toward “getting this stuff” for their long-term recovery.
As the saying goes, insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different outcomes. I’m happy these guys are doing something different in the realm of sexual health.
As the saying goes, insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different outcomes. I’m happy these guys are doing something different in the realm of sexual health.
Thursday, July 1, 2010
Introduction to Cybersex Unplugged
We're getting close! Yes, progress is being made. An updated rough draft of the introduction to the new CYBERSEX UNPLUGGED. See LIVINGALIFEILOVEBOOKS.COM
Does anyone track what I’m doing online? We all wonder who knows what we do online. How do I hide what I’m doing from my partner? OMG, did she see what I was doing? I hope the person on the other side is as hot as they say they are. I get so tired of the online games. I’m only online because I can’t have sex with my partner. Boy that chat was great; is that cheating? I’d like to have sex with that person in the video. Is that pic legal?
We’ve all heard the stories of people getting caught doing online sexual stuff. Someone was fired, a relationship ended, a fight ensued, or someone was arrested. Perhaps one of the stories people talk about is you? Perhaps your just the next person they’ll talk about if you don’t stop what your doing.
This workbook resulted from conversations with individuals who struggle with their online sexual behavior. The consensus from these individuals and their therapists was a current workbook addressing the common issues for cybersex compulsivity was needed.
This book builds on our experience to focus on the nuances of Internet sexual compulsivity. We break down the complex elements into what we think are basic issues to addressed. We also highlight what we think are issues unique to cybersex including topics such as: psychology of the Internet, cybersex user categories, and understanding, assessing, and managing your Internet use. These topics highlight the nuances of cybersex. Sadly, not much research has been done in this area. Very little is truly known. Still, the three of us represent over 50 years of clinical and research work. Much of what we do write is based on our clinical experiences, research on related topics that we find are helpful in addressing cybersex, and in all honesty a bit of a “guess.” We hope you find this workbook useful as you strive to find sexual health in an electronic world.
This workbook focuses on cybersex; as such it is limited to cybersex. We believe cybersex is a subset of a larger field of sexual compulsivity. This workbook is not meant to address the larger topic of classic sexual compulsivity that is broad, with a variety of factors and addressed in the first book by Dr. Edwards (Living a Life I Love).
Does anyone track what I’m doing online? We all wonder who knows what we do online. How do I hide what I’m doing from my partner? OMG, did she see what I was doing? I hope the person on the other side is as hot as they say they are. I get so tired of the online games. I’m only online because I can’t have sex with my partner. Boy that chat was great; is that cheating? I’d like to have sex with that person in the video. Is that pic legal?
We’ve all heard the stories of people getting caught doing online sexual stuff. Someone was fired, a relationship ended, a fight ensued, or someone was arrested. Perhaps one of the stories people talk about is you? Perhaps your just the next person they’ll talk about if you don’t stop what your doing.
This workbook resulted from conversations with individuals who struggle with their online sexual behavior. The consensus from these individuals and their therapists was a current workbook addressing the common issues for cybersex compulsivity was needed.
This book builds on our experience to focus on the nuances of Internet sexual compulsivity. We break down the complex elements into what we think are basic issues to addressed. We also highlight what we think are issues unique to cybersex including topics such as: psychology of the Internet, cybersex user categories, and understanding, assessing, and managing your Internet use. These topics highlight the nuances of cybersex. Sadly, not much research has been done in this area. Very little is truly known. Still, the three of us represent over 50 years of clinical and research work. Much of what we do write is based on our clinical experiences, research on related topics that we find are helpful in addressing cybersex, and in all honesty a bit of a “guess.” We hope you find this workbook useful as you strive to find sexual health in an electronic world.
This workbook focuses on cybersex; as such it is limited to cybersex. We believe cybersex is a subset of a larger field of sexual compulsivity. This workbook is not meant to address the larger topic of classic sexual compulsivity that is broad, with a variety of factors and addressed in the first book by Dr. Edwards (Living a Life I Love).
Wednesday, December 9, 2009
Living a Life I Love, workbook availability
I'm happy to announce that Living a Life I Love is now available on an expanded distribution network. You can now purchase the book via orders from any bookstore! This is a change that occurred today, but may take a few weeks to percolate through the paper/electronic distribution networks. Stop by your local bookseller today!
Sunday, December 6, 2009
Living a Life I Love: 6-week workshop
As part of my new job, I'm posting information on a 6-week workshop addressing sexual compulsivity. The goal is to help participants toward getting what they want in their relationships.
Start the New Year addressing sexual health issues in your recovery. Join a discussion group designed to help you address sexual health concerns. The goal of this workshop is to help you get the type of relationships you want. This workshop is for individuals who have questions about sexual addiction/compulsivity, or avoidance of sexual behavior (sexual anorexia). For many in recovery, sexual health concerns are the last topics to be addressed. The topics reviewed are:
Jan 6, Week 1: Acting out cycle/Safety Plans
Jan 13, Week 2: Sex Timeline/Behavioral Analysis
Jan 20, Week 3: Understanding your Timeline
Jan 27, Week 4: Co-factors of Sexual Compulsivity
Feb 3, Week 5: Prevention Planning
Feb 10, Week 6: Creating a Personal Definition of Sexual Health.
Group size is limited to 10 individuals. Space is limited. Cost is $170 for the entire 6-week series and includes the cost of materials, paid at the first session.
Weston Edwards, PhD, LP will facilitate the discussion group. He is the Clinical Director at Prism. He has 16 years experience working in the area of sexuality. For More Information, contact Dr. Weston Edwards, PHD, LP at 612 825 8714
Start the New Year addressing sexual health issues in your recovery. Join a discussion group designed to help you address sexual health concerns. The goal of this workshop is to help you get the type of relationships you want. This workshop is for individuals who have questions about sexual addiction/compulsivity, or avoidance of sexual behavior (sexual anorexia). For many in recovery, sexual health concerns are the last topics to be addressed. The topics reviewed are:
Jan 6, Week 1: Acting out cycle/Safety Plans
Jan 13, Week 2: Sex Timeline/Behavioral Analysis
Jan 20, Week 3: Understanding your Timeline
Jan 27, Week 4: Co-factors of Sexual Compulsivity
Feb 3, Week 5: Prevention Planning
Feb 10, Week 6: Creating a Personal Definition of Sexual Health.
Group size is limited to 10 individuals. Space is limited. Cost is $170 for the entire 6-week series and includes the cost of materials, paid at the first session.
Weston Edwards, PhD, LP will facilitate the discussion group. He is the Clinical Director at Prism. He has 16 years experience working in the area of sexuality. For More Information, contact Dr. Weston Edwards, PHD, LP at 612 825 8714
Wednesday, June 17, 2009
Nice plug for my book from Planetout.
Click on the link to see the article on planetout.com about my book.
http://www.planetout.com/lifestyle/2009/06/living-a-life-i-love.html
Weston
http://www.planetout.com/lifestyle/2009/06/living-a-life-i-love.html
Weston
Friday, June 12, 2009
The workbook is Live!
I'm pleased to announce that my first book is now available.
Living a Life I Love:™ Healing sexual compulsivity, sexual addiction, sexual avoidance and other sexual concerns is designed to help you create a life you love in the area of sexuality. The workbook will help you understand your "acting out cycle" by identifying your high-risk situations, feeling triggers and thinking errors. The workbook has three stages:
1. Problem identification: During this stage, you examine your sexual behaviors, sexual history and acting out cycle.
2. Primary treatment addresses factors linked with unhealthy sexual behaviors.
3. Creating your future: The third stage will help you reach out for support and encouragement. You'll complete a personal definition of sexual health to help you live a life you love.
To READ MORE:
www.LivingALifeILoveBooks.com
TO ORDER:
https://www.createspace.com/Customer/EStore.do?id=3382965
Living a Life I Love:™ Healing sexual compulsivity, sexual addiction, sexual avoidance and other sexual concerns is designed to help you create a life you love in the area of sexuality. The workbook will help you understand your "acting out cycle" by identifying your high-risk situations, feeling triggers and thinking errors. The workbook has three stages:
1. Problem identification: During this stage, you examine your sexual behaviors, sexual history and acting out cycle.
2. Primary treatment addresses factors linked with unhealthy sexual behaviors.
3. Creating your future: The third stage will help you reach out for support and encouragement. You'll complete a personal definition of sexual health to help you live a life you love.
To READ MORE:
www.LivingALifeILoveBooks.com
TO ORDER:
https://www.createspace.com/Customer/EStore.do?id=3382965
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